Today, I sat down, opened my notes app, and wrote a love letter.
But not to anyone else. Not to some imaginary love waiting out there in the universe. Not even to the version of me that’s still learning how to receive love without flinching.
I wrote it to me. Right here. Right now.
Because how often do we actually sit with ourselves and ask:
Am I brave enough to be loved the way I truly desire?
Not the kind of love I work for, earn, or overgive. Not the kind of love that feels like a test. Not the kind that asks me to shrink, to prove, to wait.
But the kind of love that lets me rest.
Adejumoke Adefila
The kind that meets me exactly as I am and says, Yes, you. Just like this.
So, I wrote this letter to myself. But I think maybe, just maybe, it’s for you too.
To the Girl Who Wants Love
Are you brave enough to let love in?
Not just the love you give so easily,
but the kind that sees you,
soft and unguarded,
and still chooses you again and again.
Are you ready to let go of the armor,
the sharp edges you’ve polished
to protect a heart that only wants to be held?
You know the love of longing,
the love of almost,
the love that asks you to shrink,
to wait, to prove.
But have you met the love that lets you rest?
The love that arrives without a test,
that whispers, You are enough, even now.
What if love wasn’t something you had to earn?
What if it was your birthright?
Can you love yourself in the way you dream of being loved?
Wrap your own arms around the parts of you
that have been waiting for permission to bloom.
Let yourself bask in love
the kind that makes you feel seen,
not just adored.
The kind that doesn’t demand your strength,
but lets you soften.
You are allowed to be a hard girl,
and still melt in the arms of love.
You are allowed to rest in love,
not run from it.
You are allowed to be chosen,
without having to fight to be worthy.
So, love. Fully. Freely.
Let it hold you as tenderly as you hold the world.
Let it in.
Because you deserve every ounce of it.
By JD
A love letter to myself, and to every girl who dares to be loved.
Maybe this is the love letter you needed today. Maybe it’s the reminder that love isn’t just something we chase, but something we allow. To soften into.
This Valentine’s Day, whether you are wrapped in someone’s arms or standing alone in your own light, I hope you remember this:
Love yourself like you would want to be loved. Speak kindly to yourself. Let softness in. Let yourself be chosen.
Adejumoke Adefila
You deserve love. The kind that chooses you. The kind that stays. The kind that lets you exhale.
And it starts with you.
And if no one has told you today, you are already worthy of love. Just as you are.
All my love
JD